There is always a danger (especially for women) when it comes to dating. I, for one, don't car-pool... Oh, you want to pick me up for dinner.. hmm no, how about I meet you there? The last thing I need is for a guy to go code black stalker on me and sit out the front of my house, even though it's helpful to know I'm outta milk, it just ain't worth it.
So, for the ladies.....
How you know he wants to kiss you: (things must be going well)
1. He's getting quiet: You can't kiss if your mouths are busy talking. Notice him getting quieter? He might be working up the nerve to kiss you, creating lulls in conversation to set a sexier, relaxed vibe. Resist the urge to fill the silence with chit chat, the next time he gets quiet for a few seconds just flash him a sexy smile instead.. it'll drive him crazy.
2. He's doing mouth maintenance: He's breaking out the chap stick, he's licking his lips, he's throwing back mints. Guess what? He's probably priming for a smooch. If he offers you a stick of gum, don't be offended, he's probable just testing the waters and (consciously or not) telling you that he wants to lay one on you.
3. He's getting touchy-feely: An arm on your shoulder, bumping knees, touching your hand or the small of your back as he walks behind you... if he can't keep his hands off you, his lips aren't far behind.
4. He's bridging the gap: Going in for the kiss is extra scary from five feet away. If he's inching closer and closer to you, he may be getting ready to go in for the kill. Your body language in reaction is important here: if you want him to go for it, stand firm and don't back away as he gets closer.. make it easier for the poor guy, he's not a mind reader.
5. He notices your perfume: Leaning in and telling you that you smell great? He's not paying a compliment to Chanel. In fact, he may just be guessing that you're wearing perfume. Complementing your fragrance gives him an excuse to get up close and personal, while testing your comfort level with the invasion of space.
Men..... The Don'ts !!
1. Grill her: Bombarding her with a million questions is not the way to go. Of course, you'll want to ask some questions - and you should. But questions aren't the only way to get information. If you tell her a story or something about yourself, she'll probably reciprocate with the same information. She doesn't want to feel like she's being interviews for a job she didn't apply for.
2. Argue about facts or logic: It's okay to disagree with her. In fact, it's good to do so a couple of times, to show her you're your own man. But this is best done over subjects that have no right answer... she says she likes apples; you say no way, oranges are the bomb! Keep it playful,
3. Brag about yourself: By all means, give credit where it's due if you have accomplished something impressive, but keep it to a minimum. You don't want her to think you're more interested in yourself than her.
And for FS, if you're on a dating site or app, make sure you look like your photos!
No easier way to scare someone off than them expecting to be meeting Chris Hemsworth or Channing Tatum, and Rowan Atkinson turns up.
We've all had those horrific dates that make us want to turn into an inanimate object, but you just gotta keep powering through.
